Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 26 December 2021

Remembering Mother


(EDNA) RUTH HOOKS PROCTOR HARTSFIELD (1925-2012) *

Exactly 9 years ago tonight, December 26, right at 9:00 p.m., my mother quietly and peacefully passed away. Adrianne and I were in the room with her at Raleigh’s Rex Hospital, and for some minutes, we were unaware that anything had happened. Her pneumonia-weakened breathing had been silent and shallow all day, and at some unidentified point, it just stopped.

One of the Rex Hospital nurses came in to check her vitals, and he began by looking at the pulse oximeter to read her oxygen saturation level. The little device which clips onto the end of one’s finger did not seem to be working. Under his breath, he expressed displeasure with technology in general, with that meter in particular, and with the problems they’d been having with both. He left and brought back another oximeter, only to find he was still unable to get a reading.

Perhaps suspecting something more than faulty technology, he went to get a senior nurse. Once in the room, she efficiently set about doing the various things that would ultimately allow her to turn to us and say, “I’m so sorry, but your mother has passed.”

More than saddened at that moment, we were stunned. As Adrianne said later, “We had gotten so accustomed to her bouncing back from all of her illnesses, we just assumed that this would be the same. She was always the ‘Come-Back Kid’.”

There was a sense of relief, as well, given all of the things that had conspired to bring her quality of life so low by that time. She had gone almost completely deaf, she was being hospitalized for yet another bout of pneumonia, her 87-year-old body was weakening and betraying her, and of course the ravages of dementia had stolen much of her prodigious memory from her. All of this was piled on top of the never-diagnosed (and therefore never properly treated) psychological illness that plagued her from as far back as I can remember.

Death came as a sweet release for this courageous, loving, talented lady.

RUTH AND GROVER PROCTOR *
(Photographed sometime in the late 1940s)

Mother was in many ways an extraordinary woman. She had a great love of and respect for learning (she was the Salutatorian of her high school class), and she taught me to read (fluently, I’m told) before I entered kindergarten. For any academic accolades I may have won, she was my greatest and loudest cheerleader. And if I ever slacked off, one look at her face was all it took for me to get my rear end back in gear!

Mother’s sheet music for Nola

Music was a huge passion of hers, and so it is with me. She was a very accomplished pianist, and I remember her effortless, gracious, and lyrical playing. I now recognize that everything I know and have come to understand about lyrical performance style and melodic interpretation (as well as my deep love of music as a whole) began with her — and those many transcendent hours I was afforded to listen to her play all of those classical and popular melodies that are still among my favorites. She could melt your heart (or at least she did mine) with Danny Boy or Handel’s so-called Largo (Ombra mai fu). And my spirit was almost never happier than when she played her ebullient, musically eye-winking version of Felix Arndt’s Nola, the song which I keep as the ringtone on my phone! This is what I hear when someone calls:

NOLA by Felix Arndt (30-second excerpt)
(Performed by pianist Mark Tavenner)

I have no recordings of Mother playing (alas), but I have put together a CD of others performing the works I most associate with her. I’ve been listening to that CD all morning — and why not? She probably played these pieces for me going all the way back to when I was in utero.

I have selected one that I hope you’ll listen to in Mother’s honor today. It’s Edward Elgar’s 4-minute gentle and romantic Salut d’Amour, as played here by pianist Maria Garzón. It’s Garzón’s performance I’ve chosen to evoke Mother’s playing, as she comes closer than any other version I’ve ever heard to Mother’s delicate touch and gentle phrasing that I remember hearing in our living room. Here it is in its true delicate loveliness:

SALUT d’AMOUR by Sir Edward Elgar (3:41)
(Performed by pianist Maria Garzón)

An enthusiastic and wonderful cook, Mother even owned her own bakery for a few years. When I was in first through third grades, we lived in Cary, NC, directly across the street from the elementary school I attended. (Our house has since been turned into a Montessori School — which is appropriate, I think, though I hear rumors that it will soon be torn down and replaced by condos.) In the grade-1-through-6 schools in Cary and suburban Raleigh, it was quite the accepted practice back then to expect mothers to take turns bringing treats to their children’s classrooms. Sometimes cookies; sometimes cupcakes; and for special occasions, even a cake.

Mother sensed an opportunity, and possessing professional-level baking skills, she opened her own little bakery. (That assessment of her skills is mine, her very prejudiced son — but it soon became the consensus of many others!) At first, she made treats for my classroom, and then the word started getting around: “Ruth Proctor’s are the best!” So, she began to get a few orders (from mothers who lacked the time and/or the talent to bake), then more, and it finally grew into almost more than she could handle.

Being the only child, it was I who was always tapped to help her cook, and so I learned literally from a “master chef.” Speaking at her funeral, I was able to relate the fact that I knew how to make a pie crust even before I could do long division!

And Mother was a collector and lover of people — including those who most often remain complete strangers to everyone else. She made friends with a wide and large assortment of shopkeepers, retail merchants, restaurant servers, and medical / healthcare professionals (unfortunately, she had to spend a lot of time with that last group during her life).

MR. WILLIAMS and GROVER, JR.
(“A gift from Mother 5 years after she died!”)

A few years ago, my wife and I were in Raleigh’s Crabtree Valley Mall, and an African-American gentleman came up to me — smiling his non-verbal apology for bothering us — and said to me, “You were an only child, weren’t you?” Well, where does a conversation go that begins like that? I smiled and said yes, to which he nodded and said, “I knew your mother and father. And of course I knew you, too.” Long story short, he had worked his way through college (N.C. State) at a couple of my parents’ most favorite cafeterias. I remember Mother (and Daddy, too, but Mother more verbally) liked him immediately, befriended him, and took a strong and continuing interest in him, his family, and his life goals. He told me that day in the mall that rarely does a day go by that he doesn’t think of their kindnesses and the affectionate dignity they bestowed on him. (He told me, “And I remember you, too! You always had a book in your hands!” 🙂 ) This wonderful 20-minute encounter with such a dear man was yet one more gift I received from my mother, even 5 years after her death!

RUTH H. PROCTOR and WILLIAM V. WALLACE

I don’t know the exact year, but when my mother was in her early 30’s, she wrote a three-stanza poem that began “Dear Father, hear the prayer.” She composed the verses to meet the meter and line length of the popular 100-year-old hymn tune known as Serenity, by 19th-century Irish-born composer William V. Wallace. (That’s the two of them in the photos to the right.) It was in this form that her hymn was published, and those of you who were able to attend Mother’s funeral honored her by singing it.

Approaching the Day of Atonement in 2019, our pastor very kindly suggested that the spirit and message of Mother’s prayer-hymn made it quite appropriate for our services on that particularly solemn Holy Day. And so, I prepared a printed edition of it, giving it the (new) title A Hymn for Atonement. It was, as you may imagine, a very emotional moment for me, as I was the one standing and leading the congregation in singing this hymn, which I have known so well for the last 60 or so years.

It was earlier in the 1950s that Mother had begun earnestly to try to deal with the severe and emotionally debilitating psychological illness that defined her life for all the years she was in my life. She sensed there was something terribly wrong, but she could not herself control it. She even had herself admitted for a while to Dorothea Dix Hospital in Raleigh for specialized care, but the only remediation offered to her by her physicians was an extremely harsh drug that seemed to effect as much harm as it did good for her — but which she ended up taking daily almost to the end of her life.

I can hear much of her emotional and mental turmoil in the words of this hymn, and it leads me every time to joyfully anticipate the moment in the Resurrection when I’ll meet her again — she will be cured and will be 100% the vibrant, loving, creative lady that, in this life, fought her own personal demons so valiantly.

Should you wish to do so, you can click on the following link to hear organist Clyde McLennan perform the hymn tune, and you can sing along with the words below. Click here for accompaniment

Dear Father, hear the prayer of those Who oft-times go astray. Forgive, once more, our erring deeds, Our human, selfish way. When sin besets, temptation calls, Forsake us not we pray, But ever keep us in Thy love, Forever with us stay. Our lives an open book to be That others may explore And find there only Christ-like deeds, For this we now implore.
GROVER AND RUTH *
(Taken 7 years apart — Daddy in 1944 and Mother in 1951 — the photos nevertheless show both of them at age 26. In addition, she was pregnant with me when she had this one made!)

The picture of Mother shown at right was from her military base ID when she was the young 19-year-old wife of Pfc. Grover B. Proctor. He had joined the Army in April of 1944, and by November had been transferred to Camp Howze, just north of Gainesville, Texas.

Mother went with him to Texas, and at the time the ID photo was taken, they had been married for exactly 16 months and one week. Three weeks after that, Daddy was deployed to the European front.

As perhaps can be seen in the photo, the young Ruth has been described to me as a happy, vivacious, pretty, talented, and very smart girl.

She graduated from Hardbarger Business College in Raleigh, and worked as a legal secretary and as the secretary of the Chemistry Department at UNC-Chapel Hill.

In her early 30’s, she went back to school to become an LPN (Licensed Practical Nurse). I’ve seen her transcripts from both Hardbarger’s and her LPN training — straight A’s all the way!

For the two years we lived in Virginia, she rose very quickly from serving as a volunteer herself to being named Director of Volunteer Services at Richmond Memorial Hospital (now Memorial Regional Medical Center).

Always a great patriot, Mother was a founding member and served as President of the Ladies Auxiliary to the VFW Post 10,001 (Raleigh), and was a Life Member of the national organization.

Oh yes, and in the years after August 1951, she found time to raise, nurture, and teach me. I’m particularly fond of that!

SON AND MOTHER

There’s a Facebook meme going around, asking Mothers if they remember the exact time their child was born. My mother always told me I was born between 1:15 and 1:30 pm. She would then remind me I had caused her to miss both breakfast and lunch that day! (Over time, I discovered the correct response was, “Sorry, Mother!“)

The photo above was taken by my beautiful wife Adrianne, between 2½ and 3 years before Mother passed away. (Adrianne is our “household Ansel Adams.” She has been responsible for capturing digitally and on film so many of the iconic moments of our lives together — including the photo of Mr. Williams and me above.) Mother was 84 years old in this photo. It’s clear, I think, that she and I were having a good time that day. If a picture is, indeed, worth a thousand words, I think the 1,000 associated with this image are easily read. I somehow get the impression, looking at the expression on her face, that she loved her son!  It moistens the eyes every time I look at that photo with her.

RUTH AND GROVER’S WEDDING DAY, 1943 *
(Shown with them is beautiful little Janie Proctor, Grover’s 5th cousin, who was both their Flower Girl and Ring Bearer.)

Mother met my father in her hometown of Apex, North Carolina, in 1943, when she was 18 and he was 25. Daddy was working as a clerk at the railroad depot there — a job considered by the government as vital to the war effort — and a mutual friend thought they might like each other. Apparently they did (!!), as six weeks later, they were married!

I will take neither the time nor the space to recount here their brief courtship and their wedding day. However, I have written up both in other articles, and if you want to read the charming story of a memorable couple’s travels toward marriage, I invite you to thumb through these three brief accounts:


Mother was in many ways an extraordinary woman (as I said above), and in the intervening years since her death, I have been given the opportunity to reflect even more deeply on the myriad gifts she gave me during her life. Conversations with people like Janie Proctor Brimmer (yes, the same Janie Proctor who was Mother and Daddy’s flower girl!) have given me an ever-growing, crystal clarity about how she guided me to becoming the person I am.

God be with your spirit, Mother. Please be ready to share your music with us again in the Resurrection!


* Four of the larger photos, and the two middle photos in the top banner, were wonderfully restored and colorized by our dear friend Melanie Bevill Arrowood of Asheville, North Carolina.
She is a truly gifted artist of photo restoration, and I thank her immensely for preserving so many memories for me!
You’re the best, Melanie!!
Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 30 May 2019

Brack Cornett — Outlaw, Bank Robber, Cousin


The Cornett-Whitley Gang 
A new book is due to be published in the next couple of months, and its subject is of keen interest to my wife and her siblings.

You see, it’s about her third cousin three times removed — Braxton E. “Brack” Cornett, gunslinger, bank-and-train robber, and …  family.

The Cornett-Whitley Gang: Violence Unleashed in Texas
By David Johnson

Product details:
320 pp. w/19 b&w illustrations
Book size: 6 x 9 inches
ISBN-13: 978-1574417685
University of North Texas Press
Publish date 13 June 2019 (according to publisher)
Publish date 15 July 2019 (according to Amazon.com)


Brack Cornett: Fact and Fiction

I have not seen a copy of David Johnson’s new book on Brack Cornett and his short-lived outlaw life. But I have read enough of the history of Cornett from other writers and even press accounts from the time to know that the stories and legends vary widely.

For example, there are many historical “guesses” for various aspects of Cornett’s life: the state in which he was born, the year in which he was born and the state in which he was shot and killed.

Brack Cornett

Brack Cornett

Most likely, he was born in Missouri. Brack’s parents — Laban and Cordelia McGinty Cornett — were contemporaries and neighbors of my wife’s 2nd-great-grandparents James Mosby Cornett and Clarinda Rebecca Frost Cornett. In fact, Laban and James were second cousins. The year of Brack’s birth was almost certainly 1860, which (incidentally) was the year Adrianne’s ancestors James and Clarinda were married.

Laban named his son after his own brother, Braxton Cornett, and sometime in the following two decades, Laban and his family (which by then included a daughter, Cordelia, named after her mother) moved to Texas. This was where the twenty-something Brack would become a legendary outlaw.

And there are at least two theories as to where he died, Frio, Arizona, or Frio, Texas. Almost certainly, he was killed in a shoot-out in Frio County Texas.

It will be a great service to history if Johnson’s new book is able to straighten out the myth and contradictions, and leave us the true story.

I’ve included below a few additional items about Brack and the new book. First, the publicity book summary provided by the publisher, the University of North Texas Press. After that are four pre-publication reviews, followed at the bottom by a newspaper article about the death of Brack Cornett published in The Austin Weekly Statesman February 16, 1888. It has some of the most flowery, over-the-top, highfalutin, “old West” writing you’ve ever run across —

He is dead, and we can now pause before that prodigy which towered among us enrapped in the solitude of a greasy shirt, a picturesque Winchester belt and fond sixshooter, but we want not a pause.
He is dead; no door nail was ever deader.

Finally — and don’t miss this, folks! — your own personal chance to listen to “The Ballad of Brack Cornett,” sung by Jesse and the Hogg Brothers. (That’s all right. I don’t know them from Adam, either!)

Book summary (from publisher)

During the late 1880s, the Cornett-Whitley gang rose on the Texas scene with a daring train robbery at McNeil Station, only miles from the capital of Texas. In the frenzy that followed the robbery, the media castigated both lawmen and government officials, at times lauded the outlaws, and indulged in trial by media. At Flatonia the gang tortured the passengers and indulged in an orgy of violence that earned them international recognition and infamy.

The damage that the gang caused is incalculable, including the destruction, temporarily, of a Texas Ranger company. The gang tarnished reputations, shed light on what news media was becoming, and claimed lives. As a whole the gang was psychopathic, sadistic, and murderous, prone to violence. They had no loyalty to one another and no redeeming qualities.

But the legacy of the gang is not all evil. Private enterprises, such as Wells Fargo, the railroads, and numerous banks, joined forces with law enforcement to combat them. Lawmen from cities and counties joined forces with federal marshals and the Texas Rangers to further cement what would become the “brotherhood of the badge.” These efforts succeeded in tracking down and killing or capturing a good number of the gang members.

Readers of the Old West and true crime stories will appreciate this sordid tale of outlawry and the lawmen who put a stop to it. Those who study the media and “fake news” will appreciate the parallels from the 1880s to today.

Wanted: Brack Cornett

Pre-Publication Reviews

“I was riveted by the detailed account of the nefarious misadventures of these low-life ne’er-do-wells. This is David Johnson’s best book to date — he has put together a fresh story and he has told it with mesmerizing skill.” — Bill O’Neal, former State Historian of Texas and author of The Johnson-Sims Feud and War in East Texas

“Astutely Johnson has presented a biography of the gang objectively, without any preconceived ideas or bias. It would be difficult to find ‘social redeeming qualities’ in these characters, nothing to make them heroic as social-bandits, such as some perceive the James Boys and the Younger Brothers to be.” — Chuck Parsons, author of Captain Jack Helm and The Sutton-Taylor Feud

“David Johnson, an eminent specialist on Wild West era feuds, presents a compelling story of criminality, one attracting international attention. Aside from the thrilling tale is an underlying theme: the coalition of law enforcing entities. The hunt for these outlaws spurred the best efforts of Texas Rangers, U.S. Marshals, and sheriffs, an early day task force concept. The storyline is buttressed by impeccable research. The narration is outstanding. As is typical of Johnson’s work, the reader feels as if he or she is actually chasing desperadoes riding down the Owl-Hoot Trail.” — Bob Alexander, co-author of Texas Rangers and author of Rawhide Ranger, Ira Aten

“This book is a meticulously researched and engaging volume that sheds light on a largely forgotten band of Texas desperadoes. Observing Americans’ love-hate fascination with outlaws, Johnson strips away the romance and myths to tell the true story of these ruthless criminals and the relentless lawmen who brought them to justice.” — Darren L. Ivey, author of the Ranger Ideal series
 


“The Ballad of Brack Cornett” (3:59)



 

from The Austin Weekly Statesman
Austin, Texas • Thursday, 16 February 1888 • Page 5

The Austin Weekly Statesman


 

ARTICLE © 2019, DR. GROVER B. PROCTOR, JR. — ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

 

 


 
It has been suggested by historians that a theory or a historical point of view has truly “arrived” when one begins to see revisionism rear its head. I was neither expecting nor waiting for that to happen with my research into “The Raleigh Call” event from the JFK Assassination — but it nevertheless has begun. Break out the champagne!

I am specifically referring to an article posted on the Prayer Man website, titled “The Raleigh Call Did Not Happen.” (I will have a complete, fully annotated reply to this article in the near future, but right now I am tied up with a consulting job I have undertaken, which takes precedence.)

I opened up the article when a fellow researcher sent it to me, and I began to read it. I got through the first few introductory paragraphs, which had nothing really to do with the Raleigh Call. But then I came to this statement:

I do not believe that Oswald made a call to Raleigh,
let alone spoke with John David Hurt.

There are so many errors involved with and implied by that one sentence that it stopped me dead in my tracks. Let me explain what I mean by that.

Based on that one sentence, if this is what the author means when he says “The Raleigh Call did not happen,” then I and 100% of everyone who was involved with or who investigated the Raleigh Call agree with him completely. That which he claims never happened — as specifically voiced in that sentence — in truth never happened. And so I join him in supporting the obvious. It will be interesting to go through the entire article to see if that is really what he meant to say.

Let me interject at this point that I am always pleased when I see that others have written about The Raleigh Call, and many have. Some have been laughably ridiculous and/or horribly inaccurate, while some have been thoughtful, relevant, fact-based, and helpful to the overall investigation. I have read them all, but my level of interest in them is always in direct proportion to their level of scholarship.

This latest author is, like everyone, entitled to draw his own conclusions about what happened that night in the Dallas jail. If any researcher takes all the facts as we know them (or, better yet, finds new facts!), and comes to a different conclusion than I do — based entirely on the facts, mind you — then I will honor and respect his/her intellect and scholarship, and I will say so publicly. But if that researcher plays fast and loose with the facts, then I frankly have neither respect nor time for it. That sort of thing gives all JFK researchers a bad name. At this point, I do not know into which category this new article falls, but that first sentence (see above) does not fill me with great hope.

In the interest of fairness and balance, here are links to the new revisionist article “The Raleigh Call Did Not Happen” and to my monograph The Raleigh Call and the Fingerprints of Intelligence.

If by this time you are asking yourself, what in the world is/was The Raleigh Call, here’s an abbreviated, “just-the-facts-ma’am” version.



 

ADDENDUM:
What Was The Raleigh Call?

A brief excerpt from

The Raleigh Call and the Fingerprints of Intelligence

by DR. GROVER B. PROCTOR, JR.

         The story presented here takes place in the Dallas jail, 34 hours after the assassination of President John F. Kennedy.
         It’s Saturday night, November 23, 1963, in the Dallas jail, sometime before 10:00 p.m. Though of course he cannot know it, Lee Oswald has only 12 hours left to live. Around this time, he lets it be known that he wishes to make at least one telephone call. That request set in motion the following train of events.
         Between 10:15 and 10:35 p.m., 43-year-old telephone switchboard operator Alveeta Cave Treon arrived at work on the fifth floor of the Dallas Municipal Building, to begin her 11-to-7 shift. She came in well before her shift began in order to relieve one of the operators who had previously asked to leave early that night. Seated near one end of the ten-position switchboard was another operator, Louise Swinney, and Mrs. Treon took a position near the other end, leaving about four to six seats separating them.
         The following narrative is told from the perspective of, and uses quotes from the testimony by, Mrs. Treon (1920-1999).
         As soon as Mrs. Treon sat down to begin work, Mrs. Swinney told her there would be two men — “I am not sure if she said Secret Service, homicide, or what” — coming to the switchboard room to listen into a call. “They had told her that they would be taking Lee Harvey Oswald to a telephone to let him make a call.” Mrs. Swinney made it quite clear that their superiors had sent instructions for them to cooperate with the men.
         About 10 minutes later, said Mrs. Treon, “a knock came to the door, which is kept locked at night for security purposes. Mrs. Swinney, who was closest to the door, went and unlocked it. Two men identified themselves to her, I think by showing their identification cards. I didn’t remember what they said but I assumed they were the expected law enforcement men. They entered the room and immediately went to the equipment room.”
         As they were the only two operators at the board at that time, Mrs. Treon said she knew that either she or Mrs. Swinney would handle Lee Oswald’s call when it came through.
Lee Oswald in the Dallas jail          “A few minutes after the men went into the private room, a red light came up on the board showing a call from the jail. Mrs. Swinney and I both plugged in simultaneously to take it.” Mrs. Treon was the first to say “Number, please,” but it was Mrs. Swinney who took charge of the call. “[I] let her handle it alone,” Mrs. Treon said later. “I did not unplug. I quit trying to handle the call and let her, but I stayed plugged in with my key open.” This meant that Mrs. Treon could hear everything that was being said to Mrs. Swinney by Lee Oswald.
         Mrs. Treon’s 20-year-old daughter, Sharon — who also worked for the Dallas Police Department, as a records stenographer in the Records Office — had come in to visit with her mother that night, and was sitting in a chair a few feet away from the switchboard. Sharon asked her mother, if it worked out that she handled Lee Oswald’s call, “to make a memorandum of it — a copy of the original ticket — as a souvenir.” When it was clear that Mrs. Swinney was taking the call, Mrs. Treon sat back and listened.
         ‘I Was Dumbfounded.’   Mrs. Treon continued: “I heard her repeat a number to the caller and saw her write down details on a notation pad, which is normal routine. She then closed the key so no one on the line could hear her, then called the two men in the room on a line and said that Oswald was personally placing his call.”
         “I listened and watched very carefully for Mrs. Swinney to place the call with the long distance operator. She appeared very nervous and visibly shaken. For a few minutes she just sat there trembling.” Mrs. Treon would later comment that she understood Mrs. Swinney’s nerves. “I continued watching and listening but she did not place the call.” Because Mrs. Swinney’s key was closed, it was not possible for Oswald or the men in the equipment room to know what was happening, nor whether she had placed the call that Oswald had requested.
         “I was dumbfounded at what happened next. Mrs. Swinney opened the key to Oswald and told him, ‘I am sorry the number doesn’t answer.’ I am pretty certain she said number and not numbers. She then unplugged and disconnected Oswald. Immediately, then, the two men in the equipment room came out, thanked us for our cooperation and left.”
         Mrs. Treon would later say that her “lasting impression of the events that night is that Mrs. Swinney had been instructed by someone to not put the call through to Oswald.” That belief was strengthened, she said, “by the fact that Mrs. Swinney did not leave work as soon as Mrs. Treon came on that night as she usually did. Instead she remained as though she had been assigned to handle the call.”
         In 1978, Captain Will Fritz of the Dallas Police Department was asked by a Congressional investigator if he remembered sending any of his homicide detectives to the Switchboard room to monitor Oswald’s calls. Captain Fritz said he did not remember giving those orders, “but he stated that it still could have happened.” He further noted that Dallas Jail records “show nothing relating to a call from Oswald to John Hurt,” but that would be consistent with the fact that the call was never attempted, and Mrs. Swinney made no official record of Oswald’s request.
         The LD Call Slip.   In 1963, switchboard operators who placed Long Distance (LD) calls for people from inside the jail were required to fill out an LD ticket and turn it in for accounting purposes. However, such tickets were not required to be turned in for long distance calls that did not go through. Mrs. Treon was later asked if she knew what Mrs. Swinney did with the LD ticket she had begun to fill out, but she said he had no idea what had become of that ticket, though the normal thing would have been for her to throw it in the trash.
         However, because she had kept her key open when Mrs. Swinney was talking with Oswald, Mrs. Treon heard and made notes of all the information he had given concerning the call he wished to place. Surell Brady, a Senior Staff Counsel for the House Select Committee on Assassinations (HSCA), summarized Mrs. Treon’s version of events this way:

Mrs. Treon stayed on the line. She said she was therefore able to hear everything Oswald said and she is sure he asked for the name John Hurt and gave the two numbers. She said that as she listened she wrote the information down on a regular telephone call slip. However, since Mrs. Swinney actually handled the call, Mrs. Treon signed her [Mrs. Swinney’s] name to the slip she intended to keep as a souvenir. She said the notations on the slip of “DA” and “CA” stand for did not answer and cancelled, because the call was never actually put through. Mrs. Treon said she never retrieved any paper from the wastebasket on which Mrs. Swinney supposedly entered the information.

The Raleigh Call LD phone slip
         Had Mrs. Treon not kept the LD call slip that she filled out as a souvenir, this story would be no more than the most minor of footnotes in the tragedy of the Kennedy Assassination. However, years later, when the identity became known of the man to whom Oswald was trying to place a call, its significance would rise to the “very troublesome” and “deeply disturbing” levels ascribed to it by HSCA Chief Counsel Robert Blakey.

* * * * * * *

To read more about the man in Raleigh, NC that Lee Oswald was trying to call, as well as the implications for this man having been a former Special Army Counterintelligence Agent, you are invited to read the entirety of The Raleigh Call and the Fingerprints of Intelligence by clicking here.


 

 

ARTICLE © 2019, DR. GROVER B. PROCTOR, JR. — ALL RIGHTS RESERVED

 

 

Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 15 January 2019

Happy Birthday — and Thanks, Malcolm!


This is going to sound like a “medical” post, but it isn’t. Please bear with me…

As part of my second career (late ’70s to early ’80s), I lived in Hartford, Connecticut, where I was the General Manager of a professional chamber orchestra. And being only about 90 minutes away, I went as often as I could up to Tanglewood to absorb the incomparable music amid the glorious Berkshire surroundings.

At that time, my new doctor had done a routine EKG on me, and discovered what he called “an abnormality” in the results. He told me there were two likely possibilities: (1) that this abnormal thing had newly and suddenly appeared, and if so, it could be extremely serious — or (2) it might have been something I was born with and lived with all my life, in which case it wouldn’t mean much at all. (Turns out, it was the latter, but we didn’t know that at the time of this story.)

Tanglewood parking lot

“The unpaved field that served as the parking lot.”

An opera singer friend of mine and I drove up to Tanglewood during the summer of 1980, enjoyed the evening concert mightily, and returned to the unpaved field that served as the parking lot, only to find that I had a flat tire. I had never changed a tire before, but in a spirit of “how hard can it be?” I proceeded to get out the jack and the car’s little spare “baby tire.”

My friend frantically begged me not to “risk my heart” by changing the tire; “You could die!” she almost yelled. (Bless her heart. 😀 Did she major in Histrionics at Opera School?) But I forged ahead. By this time the parking lot had emptied, and it was quite dark.

Malcolm Frager, pianistA car traveling on Interlaken Road slowed down, saw our obvious dilemma, and pulled in. The driver got out, and the usual sort of “Having trouble?” / “Yes, flat tire” conversation ensued. My friend practically flew over to the man and begged him to help, as I had a “serious heart condition” and shouldn’t be doing such heavy work!

I said something like, “The only condition I have relevant to this situation is that I’ve never changed a tire before!” The man gave us a truly engaging (and comforting) smile, and he immediately set to the repair task at hand.

In what seemed like record time, he had the car and us good to go. I stuck out my hand, identified myself, introduced my friend, and thanked him profusely and repeatedly for his help. We again witnessed his smile, this time self-deprecating, as he shook my hand.

“I’m Malcolm Frager. And you’re very welcome!”

In a millisecond, my mind raced through a million thoughts: Frager. Malcolm Frager(!) Concert pianist. A brilliant musician. Changing my tire!! HANDS! I’ve ruined his career! Oh NO!!

And the only two words I could urgently stammer were, “YOUR HANDS!!!

His third smile was the charmer. He assured us that he routinely did all sorts of normal things with his hands besides playing the piano, and that he (and they) were no worse the wear for having changed my tire.

As it turns out, Frager and his family lived in the nearby town of Lenox, and he was returning home that evening from (as I remember it) a trip to the grocery store. It was a good reminder and object lesson that even famous people like Frager are human, need to buy groceries, and (in his case) can be extraordinarily and humbly giving, caring people.

So today, on what would have been his 84th birthday, I say, “Thank you once again, dear man, for the kindness you once showed me, and for the music you gave the world.”

Watch the excellent short documentary (below) to learn more about this great man, who (at age 56) was taken from us too early. Oh yes, and there is considerable conversation in this film, particularly in the beginning, about his hands — the hands that changed my … tire!!

 


 
PBS — MALCOLM FRAGER: AMERICAN PIANST   (26:46)
 


 
Malcolm Frager


 
 

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Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 11 January 2019

The Moldau River Cruise: Oh, What Memories!


 
Adrianne asked me this morning to please put some music on the stereo. (That’s like asking me to breathe — or to enjoy chocolate!) I think she felt music would lighten her load and boost her energy level on this preparation day.

Bedrich Smetana

Czech composer Bedrich Smetana.

I perused through many possibilities in my CD collection, and I decided to begin with one of our dearest and most beloved pieces — The Moldau by Smetana. That piece not only brought our trip to Prague immediately to mind (the most beautiful city I have ever visited), but it also it took me back to the days when I was working at the University, and would periodically be asked to teach a course in Music Appreciation.

The Moldau was probably my favorite piece of Western classical music to teach, as it allowed the students to just sit back and (mentally) watch the unfolding story being told by the symphonic tone poem. It is a musical (totally instrumental; no words) journey down the Vltava (Moldau) River in what is now the Czech Republic.

Here is your itinerary for the Moldau River Cruise, giving the timings at which each event takes place in the music. At the bottom of this post, I have placed a link to my favorite recording of the work, performed by the Cleveland Orchestra conducted by the immortal George Szell. By all means, click below and have fun!

  • [0:00] The piece begins by showing us how the river is formed from the waters of two springs, and the music lets you “see” the intertwining of the streams.
  • [1:08] The Moldau grows into a mighty river, represented by a popular Eastern European folk song (which lives today as Hatikvah (“The Hope”), the national anthem of the State of Israel).
  • [3:01] On the journey down the river, we spot hunters (with their hunting horns) on one of the banks.
  • [3:58] Farther down the river, we spot the festivities of a village wedding, where they are joyously dancing a polka.
  • [5:40] The river next passes through a mysterious gorge with appropriately contemplative music. It is a place said to be populated by water nymphs who come out at night to bathe.
  • [8:20] The speed of the river (and therefore the music) gradually begins to pick up. And suddenly, dramatically things get fierce as we navigate through the treacherous St. John’s Rapids.
  • [10:45] Finally we reach Prague, the capital city. As we pass the ancient and stately Vyšehrad Castle, the music returns to the river’s theme, an appropriately grand and uplifting finale.
  • [12:05] We leave the river to remain in Prague, and the piece ends with us watching the Moldau flow farther and farther into the distance.

Vyšehrad Castle, Prague

Vyšehrad Castle, Prague, spectacularly seen from the Vltava (Moldau) River.


A great musical journey for under 13 minutes, don’t you think??

For many of my students, it was thanks in large part to The Moldau that “classical” music ceased to be something foreign, obscure, dull, and objectionable — and became fun, alive, easily understandable, exciting to listen to, and just plain beautiful. I loved watching that epiphany!

So, all morning I’ve been playing for Adrianne many of the pieces I used to teach in that course.

Oh my, the memories!


 
 

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Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 7 January 2019

Daddy and the Pullen Park Train


Today would have been my father’s 101st birthday.

In thinking back about all the time I had with him (as well as the time I failed to have because he died well before “his time”), many memories have flooded back.

And one of the ones I’ve had chugging through my brain and heart the last few weeks was remembering what Daddy said he wanted to do once he retired.

Daddy said (and after his death, Mother confirmed it) that when he retired, what he thought he would have a great deal of fun doing would be serving as Conductor of the Pullen Park Train in Raleigh.

Two images of Grover Proctor Sr.

I don’t know if this was just a “wouldn’t it be fun to” kind of wish, or whether he did any kind of follow-up to see what might be involved to make that wish come true. But it seems clear that the Park, the train, the kids and families, and the whole beautiful ambiance of the location appealed to him greatly.

Unfortunately, Daddy died at age 64, and his final years were marred by the disease that eventually took his life. So nothing was ever able to come of his wonderfully lovely retirement dream.

Pullen Park train

If you are not familiar with it, Pullen Park was founded in 1887 and was the first public park in North Carolina. (It’s the 5th oldest operating amusement park in the country and 16th oldest in the world.) It is located on 66 acres adjacent to the original campus of North Carolina State University, just off Western Boulevard.

Pullen Park’s miniature train makes a five-minute circle of the park, taking families on a truly scenic and fun ride. According to the publication Pullen Park History, the current locomotive is “a one-third size, near exact replica of a locomotive, built in 1863 at the Danforth-Cooke Locomotive works in Patterson, New Jersey… Christened the ‘C.P Huntington C.P. #3,’ the locomotive was twenty-nine feet long and weighed thirty-nine thousand pounds when loaded.”Original Pullen train_cropped

The train shown in color above is not the one Daddy knew and wanted to run. Until it was decommissioned and retired in the 1970s, the Pullen Park train was of a more sleek, mid-century design. The black and white snapshot here shows how the conductor was elevated and the seats were in open-topped replicas of 1930s and -40s passenger cars.

Unfortunately, Daddy never got the opportunity to run either of the Pullen Park trains. So here, in his honor, is a link to a video which shows exactly what he would have seen (and what everyone who rides it sees) going around the Park. (It’s equally delightful to watch it with the sound off as with it on. Your choice.)

Love you, Daddy!
Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 28 August 2018

Sorry, Ma-Ma, but Happy 122nd!


 
Even though she would not have wanted you to know it, today would have been birthday number 122 for my maternal grandmother — Bertha Gertrude Holland Hooks Edgerton.
(How’s THAT for a venerable, Southern name?!)

Bertha Gertrude Holland Hooks EdgertonShe was born on 28 August 1896 in the tiny town of Apex in Wake County, NC. She was always known to her children and grandchildren as very sensitive about her age. She would never discuss how old she was, and when grandchildren came along, she absolutely forbade being called “Grandmother.” So the name “Ma-Ma” was adopted, and that’s how we grandchildren all knew her.

So sensitive was she about her age that she even let it be known she didn’t wish the year of her birth to be engraved on her tombstone. As such, absent any official or written family records, there was for many years general uncertainty in the family as to when she was actually born.

When I finally began the ardent study of my family history, one of the first great finds I made was in the 1900 Census. There, with no ambiguity, it showed that Ma-Ma was born in August 1896. So exactly when did she become coy about her age?

1900 Census

The 1900 Census, showing Bertha’s birth date as August 1896.

That sensitivity about her age may have started at the time of her marriage to the 22-year-old Bennett Hardy Hooks. On their 1912 marriage license, she gave her age as 18, when she was in fact 16 years old. The official Wake County Marriage Registry shows her age as 16 (which confirms her birth in 1896); so we have to wonder: was that corrected later?

When her first child Mary Louise was born, 13 months later, Bertha was asked her age “at last birthday,” and she gave it as 17 (also correct based on the 1900 Census record).

However, 2 years after Mary Louise was born, at the birth of Alma, Bertha gave her age as a year older than she really was. By the time Edna Ruth (my mother) was born, 9 years after that, the age she gave was once again correct.

Tragically, Bertha was widowed in 1929 by the death of Hardy Hooks at the age of 38. She was alone, 33 years old, with four children ages 4 to 15 to support and with just a sixth-grade education.

Her oldest child, Louise, quit high school and became a stenographer in an Apex doctor’s office, and Bertha became a domestic, cleaning other people’s houses, in order to put food on the table and to pay the $5 a month rent on their house on Hunter Street. (In the 1920 Census, Hardy Hooks and family were shown renting a house on Hunter Street, so in 1930 the family was probably living in the same house.)

Hardy, Bertha, & Harold

Hardy Hooks, Bertha Holland, and Harold Edgerton

Sometime after 1930, she met the handsome new butcher in town, Harold Edgerton, and in November of 1933 (Thanksgiving Day), they were married. In the early 1930s, it would not have been unusual for Ma-Ma to call him “Mr. Edgerton,” and in fact, she did. What’s interesting is that until the day he died, 35 years after they were married, she continued to call him “Mr. Edgerton.”

There was initially some push-back and resentment from Bertha’s children about this “new daddy.” But over time, his sweet demeanor and unconditional love for his new family won everyone’s heart. So to us grandchildren, it was just natural to call this wonderful and loving man Pa-Pa, and in fact we did.

Though the last years of her life were beset with myriad debilitating medical issues that forced her into a nursing home, she bore up as well and feistily as she could manage. Ma-Ma lived to be a venerable 95 years old and died in 1991.


 
 

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Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 23 August 2018

Saturn’s Rings: ‘This is Real!’


 
In Saturn's Rings (title)

When I observe Your heavens, the work of Your fingers, the moon and the stars, which You set in place, what is man that You remember him, the son of man that You look after him?
Psalms 8:3–4 (HCSB)

 
Tomorrow, my wife and I and two friends will be seated in the Raleigh IMAX Theater in the Marbles Children’s Museum to see the North Carolina premiere of In Saturn’s Rings. The 39-minute documentary is the 12-year project of Greensboro filmmaker Stephen van Vuuren, and the story of its making is every bit as gigantic as the vision of our Universe that he will be showing on the IMAX screen.

WHAT THE CRITICS ARE SAYING:
“Spellbinding!” “Breathtaking!”
“Stunningly Beautiful!”
“I was brought to tears as I marveled!”
“As LeVar Burton’s voiceover says, ‘This is REAL!’”

 
This film event promises to be an extremely high definition calculation of (beauty + creation) x (science + technology). Even its trailer, as posted on Youtube, is available to be seen in 8K/4320p! (I suspect that those of you who know what that means are sitting there rather impressed at this point.) Based on everything I’ve read about this film, I fully expect to be moved and wowed by it.

You should make a strong effort to see it during its short one-week run in Raleigh (or whenever it is shown wherever you live). To see the “Now Playings” and “Coming Soons” click here.

Rings of Saturn

In Saturn’s Rings is a groundbreaking giant-screen movie adventure that takes audiences on a space exploration journey of the mind, heart, and spirit, from the Big Bang to the awe-inspiring rings of Saturn.

In Saturn’s Rings comprises more than 7.5 million stunning photographs from space, including images from the Hubble telescope and the Cassini-Huygens mission to Saturn. Both the film’s credits and creator van Vuuren are quick to point out that there is absolutely no use of CGI (computer-generated images), 3D modeling, or simulations. What the telescopes and cameras gave us is exactly and entirely what you see.

But what about the animation (that is to say, the perceived movement) that is so striking throughout? Van Vuuren credits the use of Multi-Plane Photo Animation, described as a cinematic art form created by Walt Disney Studios to seamlessly join and animate the photos to full motion. You’ll find below a short film clip narrated by Walt Disney himself, which explains the Multi-Plane Animation process.

The film’s producers were fortunate enough to get Levar Burton to voice the narration, and the soundtrack features music by composer Pieter Schlosser. In addition, there’s a performance of Barber’s exquisite and appropriately ethereal Adagio for Strings performed by the Greensboro (NC) Symphony Orchestra, under the direction of Dmitry Sitkovetsky.

See Below. At the bottom of this article, I have appended active links to four short videos, including the film’s official 2018 trailer.

The first two will give you a brief glimpse of the film itself, beginning with a mesmerizing Saturn “flyover” montage, with the Barber Adagio wafting hauntingly throughout. The second clip is the trailer, which excerpts not only visual highlights but also some of Levar Burton’s narration (“This is REAL!“) At the very least, you should take the time to see these two clips; combined they last only a few seconds over 5 minutes.

Strong Recommendation: When watching these two videos, click the bottom right button to go “full screen,” and use the gear-like button to set the resolution as high as your screen will allow. Headphones wouldn’t hurt, either. You’ll thank me later.

 
The third video is director van Vuuren’s 17-minute TEDx talk he gave in Greensboro on March 22, 2018, in which he describes the fascinating processes of photo-wrangling and making the film. The last of the videos is a film of Walt Disney explaining the Multi-Plane Photo Animation Process, used by van Vuuren in this film, that the Disney Studio developed to add realism to animation.

And finally, there are brief excerpts from what three reviewers have had to say about In Saturn’s Rings.


 

5.6K SATURN CASSINI PHOTOGRAPHIC ANIMATION (5600×4200 PIXELS)
(NO 3D MODELS, CGI, OR TEXTURE MAPS USED)   (3:07)

 

 


 

IN SATURN’S RINGS — 8K TRAILER (2018)
(7.5 MILLION IMAGES FROM HUBBLE, CASSINI, NASA SPACE TELESCOPES)   (2:14)

 

 


 

STEPHEN van VUUREN — TEDx TALK (22 MARCH 2018)
GREENSBORO, NC   (16:53)

 

 


 

WALT DISNEY’S MULTI-PLANE CAMERA
FILMED 13 FEBRUARY 1957   (7:20)

 

 



REVIEWS

The Movie Elite (Nathan Phillips) — In Saturn’s Rings is a spellbinding documentary with stunning visuals and music that will transport you away for its brisk runtime.
     It will genuinely transport you to another world; it is a journey into mind, heart, and spirit. I found it very calming to watch, truly breathtaking.
     Overall, In Saturn’s Rings is a stunning documentary giving us a rare look at one of the most beautiful planets in our galaxy. Even the most ADD-addled brains should find something to enjoy.

GeekXPop (Richard Cardenas) — van Vuuren makes his love and respect for the heavens above very apparent in this documentary as the film takes us on a journey from the very beginnings of our universe to what we know of our tiny spec of space in the modern day and how much and how little we know about it all.
     Stephen van Vuuren brings to the viewer a spectacle of cosmic proportions that explore and analyze what the Cassini-Huygens Mission was able to accomplish during its mission and perfectly encapsulates what he feels with his written words, wonderfully narrated by LeVar Burton, to a degree that I cannot remember experiencing before.
     One scene in particular in the documentary had me openly weep as a moving collage of images from the Cassini-Huygens Mission were shown in quick succession. I was brought to tears as I marveled at the wonders that the cosmos in our immediate celestial neighborhood provided for us and were brought to life on screen.

My Two Cents (Bill Hunt) — In Saturn’s Rings is a large-format look at NASA’s Cassini mission to Saturn, made using over 7.5 million real high-resolution images of the planet, its moons, and other astronomical objects, carefully assembled and presented using classical multi-plane animation techniques.
     The film is aptly named; some of these images are truly breathtaking, putting you right in the middle of the Saturn system. If you’re a space enthusiast or simply love a good IMAX documentary, the film is well worth a look.



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(TITLE IMAGE) IN SATURN’S RINGS WEBSITE
(SATURN) STILL FROM IN SATURN’S RINGS

 


 
 

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Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 16 July 2018

Ladies and Gentlemen: LowderStill !


SEE 2020 UPDATE BELOW.

 
You can see my smiling wife Adrianne in this photo, posing with the equally smiling subject of this essay.

Adrianne and KevinActually, she is posing with two people. (And no, I’m not including the bartender or the mostly hidden customer in the background.)

I can sense what you’re thinking: “It doesn’t look like two people to me. Get your eyes examined, Grover!” Well, to quote Groucho (my favorite Marxist), “Who are going to believe, me or your own eyes?” (Actually, I think it was Chico, dressed up like Groucho.)

One of the two people with Adrianne is the guitarist in a rock/progressive rock/jazz trio we had just heard at The Berkeley in downtown Raleigh. (It’s quite a wonderful band, about whom more later!) The other person with her is the ophthalmologist who, less than a week after we moved back to North Carolina, performed emergency retinal laser surgery on Adrianne, thus saving her sight!

Well, the obvious answer is that the guitarist and the ophthalmologist are one and the same personKevin O’Neal, M.D., Ph.D., master of the fusion guitar, and saver of spousal vision. (We have no confirmation as yet concerning his abilities as they relate to tall buildings and single bounds.)

He has, of course, remained our “eye doctor,” at his practice, the Cary Eye Center. He is someone whom we both genuinely like and immensely respect: an indisputable rock star of the ophthalmic arts. So imagine our surprise when he one day told us about his alter-ego as a true rock star! And, as we first discovered that night at the Berkeley, he’s a truly gifted musician as well.

And Now, More on LowderStill

“If you like bluesy jazzy fusion rock that reminds you a bit of Santana, Steely Dan, Emerson Lake and Palmer, then you’ll like this sound. This is all original material and features some great guitar work and fine drumming. This is a tight band. If you are looking for something new, original, and reminiscent of an earlier time when rock music was in its prime, these guys have captured it. I was pleasantly surprised at how good this is.”
— Mark Fletcher, reviewer

My current favorite track from their CDs is called “The Situation.” I’m going to let you click on the “Play” button in the graphic below, so that you can be listening to their music while I continue. (If you’re using headphones, which I strongly recommend, Kevin is in the right channel.)

LowderStill at the NC State Fair


The members of LowderStill stroll down the Midway of the NC State Fair.

Shown above are the members of LowderStill (John Teunis, drums; Ted Van Dyk, keyboards; and Kevin O’Neal, guitar) in a publicity still for their upcoming CD, Carnival Show. I’m told they’ll be in the studio finishing it up in July and August, so perhaps we can expect it out in time for holiday gift-giving!

Kevin is continuing his musical journey, having now become a solo recording artist, exploring his own genres and compositional styles. His website describes his music as “Jazz/Fusion and Pop,” but I think you’ll hear a silky blend of other influences, as well. In the graphic below is one of his first recordings under his own name. Enjoy!
 


 

2020 UPDATE
from Adrianne and Grover Proctor
2020: Year of the Ophthalmologist

 

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Posted by: Dr. Grover B. Proctor, Jr. | 11 July 2018

A Diamond (Anniversary) Is Forever


Today, July 11, 2018 would have been my parents’
75th wedding anniversary!

Ruth and Grover';s wedding photo

 
Ruth and Grover Proctor on their wedding day, with Flower Girl Janie Proctor
(Photo restored and color added by Melanie Bevill Arrowood.)


 

Readers of these pages will know that neither of my parents is still living — Daddy having died at age 64 and Mother passing away just days before her 88th birthday.

Were they still with us now, Mother would be 93 and Daddy would have celebrated his 100th birthday earlier this year. So, oh my goodness! If they were here, imagine the party we’d be having today!!

G.G. Trevathan (1943)

Rev. G. G. “Uncle Gold” Trevathan on Grover and Ruth’s wedding day.

If you haven’t already read them, let me invite you to read the story of their meeting, brief courtship, and wedding day in two articles I wrote in 2012. I learned much more than I had known about that time after having searched and found the lady who was their Flower Girl (and Ring Bearer) in their ceremony. Her name, Janie Proctor, was written in Mother’s handwriting on the back of the copy of the above photo that was in our house all the time I was growing up. I incorporated Janie’s wonderfully memorable stories in these articles: 69 Years Ago and 69 Years Ago — The Sequel: The Flower Girl’s Story.

Among the myriad things you’ll learn from those “Flower Girl” articles is that, when Grover and Ruth decided to get married, they visited Grover’s uncle — George Gold Trevathan, a Baptist minister — to ask if he would marry them. He heartily agreed, and offered the use of his home in Pinetops, NC for the ceremony.

Both the wedding and a later reception were written up in Raleigh’s The News and Observer, in The Rocky Mount Telegram, and in a local, but otherwise unidentified, newspaper called The Booster. It would not surprise me if I learned that Daddy’s older sister, Ruth Proctor Covert, had written the copy — or even that she had pretty much planned the entire wedding. She was an amazing lady.

75th Wedding AnniversarySo, in honor of their wedding day, in honor of their 75th anniversary, and (most of all) in honor of Mother and Daddy, let me invite you to join me in a virtual journey back to that wonderful day in 1943, through the verbatim accounts from the newspapers. (Now, just because it got in the papers, don’t think this is going to be a Charles and Diana type event. After all, we’re talking about a quiet farm boy and a smart small-town girl. But that was love in their eyes that day, the same love that was with them all the rest of their lives.)

It’s early on a beautiful North Carolina Sunday morning, July 11, 1943. You’ve dressed in your “Sunday finest,” driven to Pinetops, parked the car as near as you can to the Trevathan residence, and entered the house.

Suddenly, it’s quiet, and all eyes turn to the top of the stairs

          On Sunday morning, July 11th, in Pinetops, Miss Edna Ruth Hooks, of Apex, became the bride of Grover Belmont Proctor. The wedding was solemnized in a quiet and very beautiful ceremony, at 8:30 o’clock at the home of Rev. and Mrs. G. G. Trevathan, uncle and aunt of the bridegroom.
          Rev. Trevathan, Baptist minister, officiated for the double ring ceremony with relatives of the couple in attendance.
          Janie Proctor, tiny cousin of the bridegroom, was ring bearer.
          The vows were taken in the living room at an altar improvised of white flowers and a pair of three branched candelabra holding lighted white tapers, against a background of ferns and ivy.
Ruth and Grover (1943)          The bride descended the stairs unattended, and there met the bridegroom. They entered the living room together. For her wedding she wore a street-length dress of soft white sheer crepe, a tiny veiled turban, and all white accessories. Her flowers were American Beauty roses and lilies of the valley. The tiny Ringbearer wore a frock of pink taffeta and carried an old-fashioned nosegay of pink and white flowers.
          After the ceremony, Rev. and Mrs. Trevathan entertained the wedding party and guests at a wedding breakfast. They were assisted by Mrs. V. F. Bullock.
          The bride and groom later enjoyed a dinner given in their honor by several friends and relatives. Afterwards, they left for a wedding trip to Georgia and Florida, during which time they visited Mrs. Proctor’s brother, James Hooks, U. S. Navy, stationed at Brunswick, Ga., and his wife, the former Miss Lois Pritchett of Petersburg, Virginia.
          The bride is the attractive daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Harold Edgerton of Apex. She is a native of Apex and was graduated from high school there. She received business training at Apex and is now employed by Rogers Insurance Company.
          Mr. Proctor, elder son of Mr. and Mrs. Henry Proctor, of Rocky Mount, has spent the greater part of his life in Moncure, where he was graduated from high school. He is connected with the Seaboard Airline Railway Co., in a clerical capacity, now located in Apex.
          After September 1st the couple will be at home in Apex.


 

          Mr. and Mrs. Henry Proctor, Sr., entertained with a reception at their home in Moncure last Saturday evening, July 17 from 8:30 to 10:30 o’clock, honoring their son, Grover, and his bride, the former Miss Edna Ruth Hooks of Apex.
          Mr. and Mrs. Henry Proctor were assisted by their daughter, Mrs. Otis Covert.
          Receiving at the door were Mrs. Covert and Mr. Proctor who presented Mr. and Mrs. Grover Proctor.
          Mrs. Grover Proctor wore a dress of white chiffon and shoulder corsage.
          The home was attractively arranged in colorful summer flowers and ferns.
          The guests were served in the dining room as soon as they arrived. Mrs. T. E. Hinton and Miss Dorothy Mae Burns presided at the punch bowl. Delectable sandwiches and sweets with salted nuts were served on a snow-white tablecloth. In the center of the table was an arrangement of summer flowers.
          A large number of friends called during the evening.

 

Thank you, dear Reader, for taking this virtual journey with me. Even with the somewhat dated “Social Pages” style of the writing, I can still mentally “see” the events unfolding. So in that sense, I have the rare opportunity of seeing my parents’ wedding, which took place 8 years before I was born!

Happy Anniversary, Mother and Daddy. I love you and miss you both so much! Do you mind terribly if we put off that big party I mentioned until we are all reunited again? After all, A Diamond (Anniversary) Is Forever !

Mother and Daddy, in a portrait from the late 1940s


Mother and Daddy, in a portrait from the late 1940s
(Photo restored and color added by Melanie Bevill Arrowood.)


 
 

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